Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Singles Wards

On Sunday I made a comment on Facebook about how I hated Singles Wards and I thought I would share my reasons on why I made that comment.
Carlos isn't a member of the church but he is a very spiritual person. He believes in God, Jesus and the Holy Ghost. He believes some of the things that the church teaches but he also has problems with some of our beliefs. He has urged me to go back to church several times but I always tell him that I will go when I'm ready. I think he thinks that I will be a happier person if I attend my church meetings again. I'm just scared that I will lose him if I start going back to church. Anyway....Carlos has been praying that God will send me a worthy man OR that God will make him, Carlos, the worthy man that I need. He got an invite to go to church with one of his co-workers. He decided to go and he told me that he wanted to do this alone cause he has THOUSANDS of questions to ask and he doesn't want to make a fool out of me by asking away. I told him that his questions wouldn't make a fool out of me but he still wants to go to church alone for the next few weeks.

Sunday came and he got up and started getting ready for church. He told me that his friend attended a Family Ward which is what Carlos preferred anyway. He didn't want to deal with single girls hitting on him and stuff. He left and little while later I got a text from him saying that this was a set up and that he wanted to leave. I asked him why and he said that his friend lied to him and took him to a Singles Ward. He told me that the girls were dressed like they were going to a club and everyone was texting during the meeting. He said that this girl kept looking at him and trying to get his attention. He told her that he was trying to listen and she better cross her legs cause her skirt was too short for worship. He also told me that he wanted to sit by a group of boys but his friend told him that no one sits over there. Carlos asked why only to hear his friend say that they were losers and none of the girls sat over there. Carlos was disappointed with his experience and I tried to tell him not to blame the church for how these people acted. He finally agreed that it was the people and not the church. After the meeting they had a Break the Fast meeting where more testimonies could be given and a light brunch was served. He told me that all the so called "Cool" people left and that only the "losers" and people already in a relationship stayed for the brunch. Even Carlos' friend left leaving Carlos alone. Carlos told me brunch was a better experience cause all the fake people left.

I'm outraged cause these stupid single fake people made our church look bad to someone who was investigating our religion. All Carlos wanted was to worship and feel the spirit. He didn't want some slut Mormon girl to hit on him. I concur with Carlos. Church is a place of worship and when we are there we need to be reverent. Just because it is a Singles Ward doesn't mean that worship should stop. I'm annoyed with those girls that use church as an excuse to get pretty and show some skin. I'm annoyed with those boys that only acknowledge the girls that have skirts 4 inches above the knee with stilettos and a matching handbag. I think the single people in our religion forget the real meaning of attending our church meetings. I'm one of those girls that likes to look nice and dress up. BUT....when I was attending my singles ward several years ago before my marriage, I was the strongest I had ever been before in the church. I still wanted to look nice and I still wanted the boys to check me out but I still went to church with the sole purpose to worship my savior. Getting a guy to ask you out is only an added bonus. I think that if you worship and are reverent in church meetings the right guy will notice you and that right guy will be worth your while. Those guys that only want a girl that looks like she is at a club instead of church probably aren't worth any ones time. They only want a piece of a** and those slut dressers are no different.

Carlos and I have agreed to go to a Family Ward this Sunday. I told him that he would most likely have a more positive experience and that he would probably feel the spirit more. Hopefully he will go through with it and we will go.

I almost want to write the church and tell them about this story. I want these stupid jocks and sluts to know that investigators look at their actions and think poorly of the church!

3 comments:

Kami said...

OMG! That is sooooooooooo lame! Stupid stupid stupid! You should totally write the bishop or something about it. He has authority to take care of that kind of crap.

That is really cool that Carlos is willing to learn more about the church. I think it shows a lot about his character. I'm SUPER impressed that he wants you to find a worthy man. That is so sweet! Good luck next Sunday!

You are always welcome to come to our ward with us. It's a small ward, but it's good.

Melanie said...

well, if he's truely interested in what the church has to offer in terms of the teachings of the gospel, it won't matter what the people do or how they act. It's easy to be offended by someone and turn away from the truth, but the gospel will always be true and like you said, THAT is the reason we go. People are imperfect, that's just life and we're here to better ourselves. Try not to be offended.

As said by lady lina Marie said...

Hi Kristin ! I get baptized on the 20th and I love goign to the church! I attend my friends family ward but she thought cause I'm young I would be happy with a singals ward but for the reasons youi stated I honestly don't want to go, from what i'v read online it seems very high school