Monday, June 25, 2012

I'm Not Fitting In

So I've been going to the Singles Ward here in Colleyville  since April and I still haven't made any friends!!!  I had such high hopes of making new friends, good friends, and maybe even start dating.  I hate to announce, but I'm just really not fitting in with these people.  NO ONE EVER comes to talk to me and I ALWAYS end up sitting on an entire pew by myself most of the time.  I'm beginning to think that something is seriously wrong with me or that maybe I have leprosy and I don't even know it.  I leave every Sunday and Monday feeling absolutely WORTHLESS!!!  You wouldn't think that this type of ostracism would happen among the LDS, but I'm afraid it does.  Please keep me in your prayers because I don't think I can endure this anymore......

3 comments:

The Carlsens said...

I am sorry Kristin. Fitting in is one of the hardest things in this life. Everyone needs friends. It took me 3 years to make friends where I currently live. The only way that happened is that I finally just went over and started talking to people. I was scared and worried but it made the world of a difference. Hang in there and try saying a little prayer and walk over to some people and say hi. :)
People just get comfortable with their 'group' and don't take the initiative to talk to new people. It happened in high school and it doesn't really go away ten years later either :(

Kami said...

awwwwww! I'm sorry. I have no advice, but I'll pray for you. Those people don't know what they are missing!! You are awesome!

Melanie said...

We've been living here 6 years now and I wouldn't really consider anyone in my ward a true friend.

Unfortunately the answer is, you have to go out and take the initiative to talk to people. I know that's exactly why I don't have people in my ward that I am buddy buddy with and will hang out with or call and talk to for no reason. *I'm* ok with that because I like to keep to myself. In your situation, it sounds like you really need that community, so get out there girl, you only need 20 seconds of courage. It's way hard, but you'll immediately see the change you want.

If you're not sure what to say, just pick some people and ask if anyone is sitting next to them and sit there. The conversation will flow naturally.